Do you ever feel pressured to feel beautiful?

Do you ever compare yourself to others, wondering what your relative social standing is based on how you look ... how smooth your skin is, what your body looks like, how lush your hair is?

Do you ever make yourself feel less because of a fear and a false belief that who you are is defined by how you look?

I'd like to offer you a different perspective on what it means to experience a beautiful life...on how to feel beautiful in your own skin.

"Beauty" is a loaded word.

It can be assigned to anything:

a beautiful flower
a beautiful sunset
a beautiful piece of art
a beautifully presented meal
a beautiful moment with your child
and then ... there is the loaded and highly personal ...
a beautiful woman

And yet, isn't beauty simply an experience?

Isn't it a feeling?

Have you ever been around a woman who is aesthetically "pretty", but you would not describe her as beautiful?

Have you ever been around a woman who has unconventional features, those not typically connected to beauty, and yet you've felt they are deeply attractive and even beautiful?

Have you ever wondered why you feel very little with the pretty woman, and so much with the other?

I encourage you to dig into that feeling more.

In my experience, the difference between someone who is seen as beautiful and one who is not, comes down to one thing ... CONFIDENCE.

Confidence is completely irresistible to humans.

We ALL want to feel confident.

And yet, while confidence is available to all of us, regardless of our physical features, we give up our power to feel good in our own skin and in our own lives, simply because we feel that we don't measure up physically.

To me, it is one of the greatest travesties in the world. Millions of humans walking around believing that they are less, simply because their physical features don't match some image in their minds.

So, what is the solution?

If confidence is the name of the game, how do we get more of it?

While it takes time and commitment to gain a confident identity, it is completely doable.

Follow these steps to stand in your confidence and beauty:

Give yourself abundant space to grow as you need. This means to notice and gently let go of self-criticism and to see the world with kind eyes ... because how we see the world is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. Practice abundant generosity of spirit in your days.
Walk taller. How we hold our bodies, informs our minds. When you stand and walk with a confident posture, it changes how we feel about ourselves. And yes, that also translates into how others see us. Walk with confidence to become more confident.
Create the boundary within yourself that says: "I have no idea what anyone else is thinking about. And I certainly have no idea what anyone else thinks or feels about me." We project our fears onto the world, and by doing so, hand over our power to decide what we think and feel. Take back that power and gain confidence by being the one who decides how you tell your story. You don't know what anyone else thinks. And if someone happens to tell you what they think, and it's not positive, then it is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves. Their thoughts have nothing to do with you. Instead, own your thoughts and make them a positive reflection of who you are.

By following these steps, you will grow in confidence every day: Be kind to yourself; walk with confidence; and own the story you tell about yourself.

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In health and joy,

Coach Rebecca

To Know Your Own Beauty is to Walk in Confidence