As social beings, we are highly tuned to the millions of social signals we receive every day.

We notice, usually without conscious awareness:

slight variations in another person's facial expression
body language that communicates openness or closedness
how someone dresses
relative degrees of personal grooming
the amount of confidence another person carries

We also notice, how the person makes us feel. Do they give you a sense of:

peace
calm
balance
inspiration
excitement
mental stimulation
perspective
...

In an ideal world, where people feel completely safe to be themselves and shine their authentic light, we would only feel positively about someone else.

We would only feel the brightness and warmth of their nature, because that is how light is expressed. You can't have light and negativity together ... only an expression of what is.

If this is true, then why do we feel negativity around others? Why do we ourselves become negative?

The words that come to mind when I consider what creates darkness:

fear
shame
hiding
hate
judgment
betrayal
loss of agency
excessive control
manipulation
oppression

In other words, what creates feelings of negativity are all the forces that attempt to shut down and hide our light.

I wonder if this is why the brightest lights in this world are the ones who get the most push back. When a person is authentically themselves, it is bound to make others' uncomfortable.

Yet, the way I see it is, we can either learn to live with the reality that our light may make some people uncomfortable, or maintain the status quo of our own discomfort by suppressing our light, living in fear, and always tip toe-ing around other people's comfort.

As I dance into my second half-century of life, I can tell you that tip toe-ing around others to unsuccessfully make them happy is a losing game. The reality is that no matter what we do, we cannot "make" someone else happy. That is their journey ... just as it is our responsibility to create our own happy life.

Then in order to live a happy life, we must shed the layers of fear that shroud our hearts, that linger in our bodies, that dominate the landscape of our minds.

This said, if fear is

at the center of our hiding, and the thing that holds us back in life ...
the thing that prevents us from shining our light ...
a habit born out of years of self-protection ...
the thing getting in the way of being able to develop habits of self care
... how do we go about reducing our fear and stepping into our light?

To reduce your fear and step into your unique light ... the most pure expression of your soul ... the language of your light:

Be gentle with yourself. If fear has become part of your daily routine, the first step is to soften it. What begins as a sensation ... your body's natural response to a situation that felt threatening ... over time turns into a thought pattern (if that threat is ongoing). In other words, if an environment feels chronically threatening, your thoughts begin to protect you by keeping you small ... so you will not be exposed to the threat. Being gentle with yourself will loosen up the rigidity of your fear ... and help you see that the world might not be quite as threatening as it once felt as a child.
Move your body. Your fear, when not processed or expressed, gets locked in your body. With movement, you will begin to loosen the hold of unprocessed stress. Likewise, as you move your body, you release endorphins and pain blockers, reduce your cortisol stress hormone, and rewire your brain for happiness.
Build a mindset of strength. While it's critical to be gentle with yourself and move your body to create healing and transition you away from fear, to persevere in life and handle situations going forward, you are now required to become mentally tough. All those patterns still exist. Now the task is to change them to align with habits of self-care and self-love. And how do we do this? One day at a time.

It's time to step into your light ... your unique language of being in this world.

By doing so, you will:

attract the people who are meant to be with you and who you are meant to be with
stand in your power to dodge or handle all the negative stuff that life throws your way
live in your purpose ... your own unique signature way of serving this world
become happy and live without fear

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In joy, light, and health,

Coach Rebecca

The Language of Your Light